Sunday, June 24, 2007
归国委托书样本
I,（father of the baby)acknowledged that my wife (mother of the baby) will be traveling out of the country with our daughter/son(name of the baby,date of birth) I am giving her permission to take care of our daughter/son.
signature
date
statement notarization
一些行之有效的育儿小窍门，很有用啊，一定要试试的。
1，对付屁股上的尿疹，儿子屁股一度通红，简直就是个小猴。抹了几种尿疹的药，都不是很有效，结果婆婆给他抹了橄榄油，立刻见效，恢复带着青记的豆腐状。
2，对付鼻孔里的干鼻痂，用吸鼻器也弄不出来，儿子认识一般一见到那东西就哭，用东西掏经常也会适得其反，捅了进去，而且经常掏鼻子会损伤鼻子的黏膜，婆婆用棉签沾点香油，抹在鼻子里，小家伙一个喷嚏就把泡软了的鼻痂打出来了，故此经常见到可与孩子他爸爸媲美的大鼻痂。
3，儿子皮肤虽然很好，但是有点干，后来又有点湿疹的苗头，婴儿油根本不起作用，婆婆用水化点蜂蜜每天早晚抹上，小家伙的皮肤现在简直就是红苹果。
4，儿子手指甲长的挺快，会挥舞双手之后就把可爱的小脸蛋挖出了伤痕，买的专用指甲刀也不好用，婆婆拿来我做指甲的摩擦棒，边和他玩边完成了打磨指甲的过程，既不用担心夹到了肉，又很光滑平整。可见有个爱美的妈妈还是有好处的。
怎样付美国医院帐单
不管你有没有保险，可能都自己要付一些钱。生育可能要$2万左右。生完喜儿，我
最多的时候收到大概$4千多要自负。现在已逐步减完。
1。不能不付医院帐单。这是违法。所以不要把帐单丢一边，要多打电话，态度要诚
恳，有理有据地谈。
2。和保险公司谈，熟读保险条例，问请每一个拒付项目的原因，争取自己权益。打
完几个月的数十个电话，喜妈的保险公司又付了三千左右。
3。找可以付费的机构。如果有MEDICAID，如果有绿卡(公民)，如果没工作，如果没
保险，你可能符合某个人道主义机构帮你付费的条件。
4。和OB谈。OB有时愿意减免费用。你可以付CASH，美国OB一样。
5。和医院谈，医院一般不喜collecting agent, 因为他们抽成。医院宁愿和病人协
商付费。a. 说你认为费用太高，要医院核实费用，给你itemized statement，你找
懂医的朋友查或给audit department 或你的OB查，一般有很多项目你根本没做过的。
b. 医院费不收利息，所以你可以要求每月付费，每月$10或$25。 c. 或要discount，
表示你愿意在一特定时间(30天内)用CASH付清。d. 或要求工作换费用( barter)，
比如说给医院做清洁工，花园工，中文翻译， 数据处理，或和你专业有关工作，直
到费用抵消完。
希望宝宝和妈妈安康。如若有其他好建议，请跟贴。
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宝宝4 个月的玩具总结
有些不能算玩具，不过总结一下也值得。
1。musical mobile
这个很值得买，宝宝很小的时候就愿意跟着看。
另外，爷爷奶奶从国内带了一个来，个人感觉不是很好，固定的螺扣不适合这里的crib,音乐声也不够柔和。
2。musical mobile" target="_blank">Ocean Wonders Aquarium
这个也推荐，音乐很好听，宝宝从很小的时候，只要一要睡觉，就把他打开，习惯了之后，对宝宝有安抚作用。
3。Ocean Wonders Kick & Crawl Aquarium Gym
这个宝宝从大约2个月开始玩，俺是很喜欢fisher price的这个主题。因为大多数情况，宝宝躺在床上玩，所以目前下面的垫子用处不大。挂的4个小东东里面，宝宝最喜欢那个大球，可以踢来踢去，或者双手 捧着玩。还有一个会唱歌的小鱼，但宝宝都是在无意识的情况下弄响的。
建议：如果家里地大摆的下，那种立体的好一点。
4。ExerSaucer Mega - Circus
俺买的是ExerSaucer Mega - Circus,不是很贵，但真的值得推荐，宝宝从坐进去的第一次，就很enjoy。眼睛看不够,每次都能玩上一段时间，不过大多数情况下，都是伴哭着从里面出来，因为她想抓着吃，但够不到，嘻嘻。
5。bouncer
本来俺看重了fisher price的，结果爷爷奶奶万里迢迢的从国内带来一个。不管什么样子的，这个一定要买一个。宝宝从一开始就喜欢，一直到现在，困了的时候，往里一放，晃着晃着就睡着了。
6。Roll-a Rounds: Drop & Roar Dinosaur
目前还没大用，以后再汇报。
7。一些小的抓握玩具
大多都是朋友送的，反正都是往嘴里送，没有大的差别。
8。宝宝两个脚喜欢蹬来蹬去，本来去walmart想买九九妈推荐的打球，没买到，为什么？ 就把个不倒翁放到脚下，她也很喜欢踢。
另外，朋友送了个aquarium swing，俺准备退掉了，换一个high chair，:)。
What to expect during a C-section
Narrator: About one in four women delivers her baby via Caesarean section, or C-section as it is commonly known. Although vaginal delivery is the natural and preferred method for childbirth, a C-section may be performed for the safety of mother and baby.
Bruce Johnston, M.D.: Preoperatively, the process begins early during the prenatal care if the patient knows she's going to have an elective Caesarean section. We talk about what she is to expect — the anesthetic or analgesic she's going to receive, the fact that she'll have a Foley catheter in her bladder (to drain urine), and that once she comes into the room, there will be many people in the room, including her scrub nurse, the anesthesiologist, the pediatrician and then the core of people that will actually perform her Caesarean section. We try to advise her what to expect, what times — how long potentially we think on an average it will actually take to perform the Caesarean section — and we like not to forget the father. The father is an important caregiver and is a good hand-holder for people who are doing this under regional anesthesia.
Mother: That's tart!
Gurinder Vasdev, M.D.: That was Bicitra, which neutralizes the acid in the stomach, because pregnant women tend to have a little more acid in their stomach than normal. This is so that if she feels sick or nauseated during surgery, she's not bringing up acid.
Narrator: Eighty percent of women having a C-section use regional analgesic for pain control — either an epidural or a spinal block. The other 20 percent use general anesthesia. You'll be made comfortable in a special surgical delivery room and administered pain medication. This video shows a spinal block. Placing a spinal begins with cleaning a small area in your lower back with antiseptic solution.
Dr. Vasdev: We're doing a spinal anesthetic, and we're going to draw up the medication for the spinal anesthetic. For that, we use a combination of a local anesthetic called bupivacaine, some opiate medication called fentanyl, and morphine, and that gives you analgesia for almost 24 to 48 hours after the C-section so that you don't require any form of IV pain relief.
Narrator: During placement of your spinal, you'll either lie on your side or sit up, and round your back. First an anesthetic is injected to numb the area. You may feel a pinprick when the anesthetic is injected, but the spinal block shouldn't cause any discomfort. Then the analgesic is injected into the sac of fluid surrounding the spinal nerves, below the level of the spinal cord. A spinal block takes effect almost immediately.
The blue shading in this illustration shows the area of your body numbed by the anesthetic.
Dr. Johnston: The total time for a Caesarean section varies significantly for people who are having repeat Caesarean sections. Our primary Caesarean sections generally take approximately 30 minutes total.
Narrator: Once the anesthetic has taken effect, your abdomen will be prepped for delivery of your baby. Your doctor will make two incisions, one through your abdominal wall, and another into your uterus.
There are two types of abdominal incisions: vertical and horizontal. Vertical incisions are usually done only in an emergency, from just below your navel to just above the pubic bone.
Horizontal incisions are also called Pfannenstiel incisions, or more commonly, bikini incisions. The horizontal incision is made across the lower abdomen, near the pubic hairline. Bikini incisions are used in most C-sections because they typically heal well, the scar is not easily seen and they may cause less post-delivery discomfort. The initial incision is about 6 inches long and cuts through your skin, fat and muscle to get to the uterus, where your baby is. Your doctor uses a special knife that burns, or cauterizes, the tissues to help control bleeding.
Dr. Johnston: When we perform a Caesarean section, it's the matter of several little steps. Basically most patients cosmetically are most interested in having an incision that goes across the lower part of their abdomen. It's called a Pfannenstiel incision. And when we make that incision, we go down through the skin and subcutaneous layers. Then we get a layer of fascia, or connective tissue, that covers up the rectus abdominis muscles. That (the connective tissue) is incised and then gently separated so that we can actually enter the tummy cavity where the uterus is without cutting any muscles. Once we do that, we make a little flap up underneath the bladder and then make our incision below that. We make it at a location where, if later on she desired to have a vaginal birth after her Caesarean section, it would be a possibility. Usually in approximately five to 10 minutes we've got the baby delivered, and the rest of the time is suturing and repairing the regional incision site.
Narrator: Because your anesthetic blocks pain but not motion, you'll likely feel some tugging when your baby is pulled out, but it shouldn't hurt. Once the baby is delivered, your doctor will remove the placenta and begin to close the incisions. Internal stitches dissolve, and don't need to be removed.
Dr. Johnston: Of course, once we deliver the baby, the steps are done in reverse, except it takes longer to repair the incisions than it did originally to make them. So we do the steps just backward and repair the incision in the uterus. Then we sequentially repair the body wall, which is done in two or three steps, and then either suture or staple the skin edges. If they are stapled, the staples are removed before the patient goes home approximately 72 to 96 hours later.
Should your kids get an allowance?
Most money experts agree that children should be given an allowance in order to learn financial skills at an early age.
"Giving your kids an allowance is the best money-management tool you can use with your children," says Janet Bodnar, the deputy editor at Kiplinger's Personal Finance.
Have you ever noticed that children will spend unlimited amounts of money as long as it's yours? "When it's their money on the line, children make more-informed purchasing decisions," Bodnar says.
The problem is that most parents resist giving children an allowance, and, if they do, they usually give the children too little. If the allowance isn't large enough for children to experiment with -- to make mistakes with -- it won't have the learning effect you'd like it to have.
How young is too young?
As soon as a child begins to express a sincere interest in material wants -- as in, "I want that!" -- it's time for an allowance. Depending upon the child, that's probably around ages 3 to 5.
The first mistake most parents make is starting too late. The majority of parents wait until their children are "tweens," 9 to 12 years old, and they miss out on the opportunity to discuss money with young children who are more apt to listen to, and take, their parents' advice.
By the time kids are teenagers, they have additional influences on their spending habits, including friends, advertising, pop culture and the media.
How much is too much?
The first question parents usually ask is, "How much allowance should I give my children?" Some experts recommend a weekly allowance that totals a dollar for each year of a child's age. But rather than determine the amounts by your children's ages or follow what other parents give their kids, make an informed decision based on what you expect your children to do with their allowance.
As your children get older, they will have to take on more responsibility for their spending habits as their allowance is increased. Decide as a family how the allowance is to be used. Will your children be expected to purchase movie tickets, clothes, birthday gifts for friends and school lunches? If so, the allowance has to be high enough to cover those expenses. Then, if your children overspend before the end of the week, they won't have any money for a movie or a trip to the mall on Friday night.
Tying allowance to chores
Many child-development experts agree that linking an allowance to the completion of chores is not the best approach.
"My recommendation is to keep the allowance totally separate from the chores," says Aletha Solter, a developmental psychologist and founder of the Aware Parenting Institute in Goleta, Calif. "That way, children will learn the value of cooperation and experience what it feels like to contribute to the family."
In addition, once children have other streams of income, such as monetary gifts for birthdays and holidays or a part-time job after school, they often balk at doing chores at home in order to earn their allowance because they are no longer dependent on Mom and Dad for all income.
Giving extra money for bigger chores -- not those that you expect your child to do daily or weekly -- is fine. For example, if Dad usually pays to get his car detailed once a year, he might be willing to pay for that task to be completed by someone in the family. Or if the children help with the annual "spring cleaning" of the garage, that might be worth greasing the palms of helping hands.
Age-appropriate expenditures
Even at a young age, children can begin learning about money:
Preschoolers. "Children as young as age 4 can learn coin recognition and basic financial principles such as the exchange of goods and services for money," Solter says.
The amount of money should be minimal because children at this age tend to lose or misplace money. That's OK. It's all part of the learning process. If your son is playing with a few quarters and loses them, he won't have the money to buy baseball cards or a pack of gum.
Elementary age. By 5 or 6, most children can understand the differences between spending, short-term savings, long-term savings and donating. If they sort their money into those four categories every week, they'll be developing responsible money-management skills. As they get older, children can begin paying for things such as their hobbies and gifts.
Tween years. At ages 9 to 12, children who have been given an allowance from an early age will be able to step up their responsibilities as the amount of their allowance increases.
Some tweens are ready to take on the challenge of purchasing their own wardrobes and paying for all of their entertainment expenses. Many tweens will feel empowered by their allowance, although they still will need constant supervision and guidance.
That's not to say that parents should stop them from making mistakes. Remember, the sole purpose of the allowance is a tool for learning good money-management principles. One of the best ways to learn is by making mistakes and dealing with the consequences of those errors.
Teen years. Most experts agree that by the time children are teenagers they are ready to receive a clothing allowance. So, instead of opening your wallet every time Junior wants a new pair of jeans, consider giving him a clothing allowance.
You may want to do this in two distinct clothing allowance chunks, rather than making it part of the allowance, since clothes shopping happens a few times a year rather than weekly. Let him use his clothing allowance the way he wants to, and when the money is gone, don't offer more -- even if he's forgotten to budget for a new winter coat and needs to wear his old one, which is ever so snug and showing its wear.
Freedom within limits
Some parents fear that giving children an allowance is like giving them permission to purchase whatever they want, whenever they want. Not true. The allowance gives children some freedom to choose what they want to do with their money, within your limits.
For example, you may require that a certain amount of your child's allowance be saved for college or donated to charity, or both. It's your call. And, as always, you set the limits on what's appropriate to buy. If your child is not permitted to watch PG-13 movies or play T-rated video games, then those are off-limits regardless of whether they have the money to buy them.
This article was reported and written by Lynne Ticknor for Bankrate.com.
